Now, I’m not a paranormal writer (at least, not yet) but you do have to wonder…
Look back 100 years – 1917
- Some marriages were still arranged
- Dating was done in groups or with a chaperone
- Receiving gifts was very much a part of the romance
- Virginity was more common until the wedding night
- Many women married in their teens, not finishing high school
- Women over 25 years old were considered spinsters
- It was romantic to cook a lovely meal with a candle lit table setting
- Kink was considered something very private, as well as the act of sex
- Sex was often times considered only for procreation
- Marriages lasted many years – divorce not being considered, even in the worse circumstances due to its stigma.
Looking at today – 2017
- Many couples meet via social media or internet dating sites
- Dating is rarely chaperoned
- Gifts are typically only given for special occassions
- Virginity is a rarity – many couples have sex by the third date, if not sooner
- Many women opt for high school and college graduation prior to considering marriage
- Many women wait until their 30’s and 40’s to marry the first time – waiting until their careers are established or hoping to find the right one later on when they’re more mature – avoiding divorce
- A romantic dinner out is preferred to avoid cleanup
- Kink is freely talked about in order to find a more suitable mate
- Sex is considered a must not an option – even without the need to procreate, thanks to advances in birth control
- It’s typical to find a mate who has been married multiple times due to divorce being a ready option for difficult relationships
Flash Forward 100 years – 2117
- Couple paring will be arranged for more equality in intellect
- Dating will be obsolete
- Gifts will be unnecessary
- Virginity will be in demand as to keep couple paring limited
- Advanced education for both parties will be the norm
- All will be pared by age 30
- Kink will again be private and underground
- Sex will be demanded for only procreation, all other options for sex will be private and underground
- Divorce will be obsolete
Of course, all this is my own personal option. What do you think romance and marriage will be like in 100 years? I’d love to hear your ideas.
If the knight in shining armor doesn’t exist, what does? Do the moonlit walks and candlelit dinners? Or are those just in the movies? Do men really whisper sweet nothings or is that just in books? Is there really sexual tension or do most couples jump into a physical relationship so quickly that there is no tension?
Think about how sexual relationships on television have changed. Remember the days when couples slept in separate beds? Those days are gone and so has our imagination. Even during prime time scenes are very explicit. So, how does that fit into our view of romance?
For realists, romance is dead. We all have busy lives and are lucky to be able to sit down to have dinner, much less light candles and have a glass of wine. A quickie is the norm. Romance is for the big screen and novels; a fantasy best left to the imagination.
For romantics, its alive and well. The slightest touch or softest breath can stir up desire. A look or smile can cause the heart to skip a beat. Intimacy starts with holding hands and a slight kiss. Sexual tension is meant to build. Time and place are considered just as important as the act itself.
Which category do you fit in? Realist? Romantic? Is a romance novel or a movie an aphrodisiac? Is there time for romance in the 21st century? Can you be converted?
I write what I want to read. I have heard other authors say that. I love to read historical romance. LOVE IT! Do I want to write it? No! Way too much research! I like to write contemporary romance. Once I get published will anyone else want to read my books? I hope so.
I met up with some friends tonight who are avid readers. Mostly romance. I listened to the comments they made about other authors they read. The heroine was too young and not relatable, too many zombies, story didn’t move along quick enough, too much sex, not enough sex…
It gave me even more book ideas. I definitely have the writing bug! My muse is busy throwing ideas at me quicker than I can write them down. Surely others will want to read my work and share it with the world. If not I will still have to write. And I will continue to listen to what others want to read and try to accommodate while still enjoying they story my way.